Aug 2, 2004 9:39pm
Re: Now this post, I must admit, is a bit malicious
to be fair, the very nature of the 'thread' system used on these boards can bea bit confusing, and sometimes it might be the case that replies can be made at 'inappropriate' levels of the thread hierarchy...
... this kind of thing is easy to happen.. here's some suggestions to prevent friction and promote lubrication on this type of forum.
1) discuss concepts, not people on the forum, even mentioning another person can be misconstrued as an attack
2)if you are specifically addressing an individual, usage such as "(@ glenn)you still believe in the tooth fairy?really?" can serve to explicitly disambiguate who your addressee is...
3)if it seems as if someone is making some sort of personal attack on you, they likely aren't... ignore it
4)if someone makes it plain they are attacking you, ignore it even more, nothing is servedby giving an attacker the only thing they could possibly want from you,a response.
5)be cordial to even the biggest jerk, if this doesn't work be amazingly cordial. Nobody who is spoiling for a fight can lastlong int he face of implacable calm.
6)periodically, start a random post with the words thank you, or I'm sorry. These words have a positive effect even when used at random moments.
I really appreciate your help. Thanks a lot!